Like a Zipper.
Cody is home!!I'm re-reading A Severe Mercy because the first time I read it was right after the Academy where I was given the book and right as Cody was leaving, and it was too hard to read it just then, so I only got through a couple chapters before I had to put it down. I've picked it back up again because I found it behind my bedside table and I am so glad it found me again. I had started reading it again before Cody got home, and because he was away, I really had the opportunity to think about the things Sheldon Vanauken says and then apply them to our relationship. One thing that I love love love about Cody is that he is always willing and eager to talking about anything. Many girls I know ask how I put up with Cody (I think they are usually kidding, but I think some are genuinely curious), and my answer is usually that there is very little to put up with. Our personalities align perfectly. I tend to be too passive, but he can be bold to the point of being mean; he encourages me to be more assertive and I show him how to be more loving -- and that's just one example of how wonderful this is.
I asked Cody what he thought of Vanauken's idea of separateness being "the failure behind all failures" and he agrees that this year spent one hundred miles away from each other has definitely affected our closeness and that next year our schedules will be even busier and although we will be closer geographically, we will have to work even harder to make time for the other. We decided that we will find a church somewhere in between our schools because of advice that J.P. Moreland gave Cody during Torrey Europe, actually, that it is crucial for couples interested in sustaining their relationship to go to the same church, if locationally possible. We will also try to spend most of Sundays together after church, and we're going to go on a date at least once during the week. I'm actually terribly excited about that! Cody and I have never been good at the date part of dating, so this is something new! We've talked about learning ballroom dancing together and volunteering together. I was so glad that he had the same concern about separateness as I did and is eager to prevent if from becoming a big problem and mending the damage it has done, which is minimal, anyway.
My suitcase is half-packed and I think I already have exceeded the weight limit for international flights. I'm not procrastinating; my laundry isn't done yet.
I bought new walking/running shoes for Europe (my last pair are from 7th grade) and let me tell you, these things are like walking on marshmallows. Ladies, when you look into new shoes, check out Ryka. They are designed specifically for women's feet and sponsored by grants for women's health. I don't know if that is why these things are so comfortable, but it's unique, anyway. I love my shoes.
I think I heard the dryer buzz. I'll try to write tomorrow night to leave you with the itinerary. I have 1.5 GB in memory sticks for my camera, so be ready to be bombarded with pictures when I get back. Goodnight!
posted by Jess @ 10:44 PM
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